Talks of Childbirth part 2

After my last childbirth conversation with Nicky...
I'm still feeling super buey kam guan [unsatisfied]. So i went to ask another of my male friend, John who's in a serious relationship.
I thought probably the mentality of a single man compared to an attached man would differ, but boy i was proved wrong!
Or perhaps it all boils down to individuality?

Anyway, here's the snippets of our conversation :

Lexmum : John, can i ask you something personal?
John : Yeah sure..

Lexmum : In future when your wife's gonna give birth, would you accompany her in the labour room?
John : What? NOOO!

Lexmum : Huh..but why not?
John : I rather slice my hand than look at my loved one in pain.

Lexmum : =.=" You don't want to see her in pain. but you can leave her alone suffering in pain?
John : If she screams n cries out of pain, my heart also bleed lar.

Lexmum : Wah lao!! Like that then ALL the more you should be there to give her support. Correct or not?
John : But I cannot tahan see the blood....


Balik balik also "Blood" reason again.
Actually what is so scary about blood? Don't they have blood flowing in their veins too?

How can the male population be so aggressive in sports, in life... and yadah yadah.
but when it comes to accompanying their wives in labour room, they just back off like a timid mouse?


OK, i know not all males behave that way.
LexDad certainly does not fall into the category. *Thank God for that*
And so does a few other bloggers' husbands who were there giving their wives care n support while she goes through the life changing moment, which may be traumatic for some people.

However at the end of the day, holding the bundle of joy in our arms, everything is definitely worth it.

Talks of Childbirth

Questions questions questions...


The other day, i was having a conversation with my long time online male friend *Nicky*, who's single, desperately available..
Allergic to marriage commitment, he's just interested in having kids.
[don't ask me why, i haven't figured out the reason either]

We usually talk about anything under the sun and since we know each other for the longest time, you can expect there's no restriction of topic or language whatsoever.


With me being heavily pregnant, naturally our topic fell into the "Childbirth" topic.




Nicky : Due date's nearing, are you nervous bout giving birth?
Lexmum : Not for now, but hubby's gonna be with me in labour room..so i've got a guaranteed extra pillar of strength :)

Nicky : Har?? He's not gonna wait outside?
Lexmum : why should he? the hospital allow husbands to accompany their wives in labour room.

Nicky : in future, if my wife's in labour..i will WAIT outside
Lexmum : wah lao weh.. but why? you don't wanna witness your baby coming into the world?

Nicky : scared next time i dont dare to "F" her
Lexmum : muahahahahahaha..

Nicky : some people really lost their interest in sex you know..
Lexmum : until that cham meh??

Nicky : um..after they've seen the bloody vagina
Lexmum : but if you love the person, takkan you'll feel disgusted by that?? Moreover, she's sacrificing her vagina to give birth to your baby leh!

Nicky : I'm afraid of bloody things lar
Lexmum : including bloody vagina? then what if your future wife's a virgin?

Lexmum : don't tell me you'll abstain from making love to her forever?

Nicky : that one is different story.
Lexmum : Wah lao, you're a damn selfish male chauvinist la.

Nicky : Hahahaha..



Thus the abrupt end of our conversation..
Haiz, but seriously..somebody please tell me not ALL males have that kind of thinking!



At least LexDad readily agreed to go for father friendly class, to accompany me when I'm in active labour.

Anyway, i showed him the following Youtube video.


Natural Vaginal Birth with episiotomy




After watching the documentation, he told me he will still be there to give me his full support.But if he "pengsan" while I'm giving birth...please don't tell anyone.



Anyone else have their husbands beside them while in labour? mind to share your experience with me?

Baby's Gender

Since early pregnancy, i've been consulting a gynae in JB, lets just call him Speedy Gonzales.
Yeah, he likes to do everything super fast and kalang kabut-ly..
After every USG session, he will say ,"Anymore question? ok,see you next month then."
before we can say anything..

*Haiz*

Anyway, Speedy Gonzales confirmed i'm expecting a baby boy ever since my 17 weeks scan. Actually he confirmed it 4 times.. at 4th, 5th, 6th and 8th months scan.
*i missed the 7th month check up*

LexDad asked if there's any possibility that the scan might turn out wrong or baby might not be a boy?
Speedy Gonzales gave LexDad a steely stare and said,"There's NO WAY the baby will turn into a girl anymore."

Ok, so i guess we can start shopping for baby boy's clothing and barang...or so we thought.


Last week my mother went to consult a deity. Deity said i will give birth at 20+ march to a baby girl.
[my EDD is 17 march btw]

Not satisfied with the result, mother's friend introduced a paranormal to her.
This time paranormal said i will give birth in early march..
but no mention what so ever about baby's gender.

Mother came to visit us excitedly with the news, telling me i might deliver early and to get my hospital bag ready etc..
making me more blur.
Don't get me wrong, having a girl or a boy is equally fine to us..



but then..wah lao weh, this kind of thing also can play play one ar?



This morning, over breakfast :

LexDad : Darling, last night i dreamt you gave birth to a baby girl...
LexMum : whoa.. i dreamt of the same thing last night! how come ar?

LexDad : dunno.. probably we should start thinking of baby girl names for back up?
LexMum : yeah, then dress our girl in boy's baju... very nice hor.



Anyway, like Leona Lim said..the baby will let me know when he/she gonna make the grand entrance..

But we'll see whether Speedy Gonzales, "late baby girl" deity or the paranormal is right.

Being a wife & mum is not easy

This morning i read the "Losing Hubby" at Star online [Dear Thelma entry] about a wife finding her hubby's been cheating on her with a so called other woman who's a married woman cum school teacher with 2 kids in tow..


if you're interested, here's the link


There's sadness tugging in my heart after i finished reading, somehow poor wife is in self denial..
Her quote "I believe many more women have this problem but the sad thing is that other women are causing it."
Aiyoh.
She blames the other woman, but none at her hubby?

Ohh..wake up babe, your hubby plays a part too!
If his will to be faithful is so strong, he wont even get into the affair in the first place!
He should have considered the outcome, moreover the pain he's gonna cause.

However, i admire her courage to be patient and to forgive her hubby.
to standby her family, to spare her children from a broken family.
She abstain from tainting the perfect father figure whom her children are so much attached with.
Her hubby certainly DO NOT deserve her.


If the same thing happens to me [touch wood!!], i don't think i could be as noble as her.
I'll probably wring the other woman's neck & cincang [aka multilate] Lexdad's didi..
Although medical science is so advanced, he can forget about re-attaching his penis back.


Ok, it sounds violent.. i know.


Haiz.. who ever says being a good wife and mother is an easy task?